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Leisure is the prize, right? We work hard, so we want to play hard; we look forward to our time off, believing that the more leisure time we have, the better life will Shemale bubble butts. Enjoying that time — or savouring that coveted end goal — should come naturally.

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However, research shows that both having and deciding how to spend leisure time can be very stressful. Some people feel enormous pressure to maximise their downtime with the best choices: researching more, anticipating and spending more money. But, as data prove, this pressure to maximise our fun might get in the way of our enjoyment of leisure itself. Additionally, some people struggle to view leisure as worthwhile at all. However different their problems with leisure, both groups struggle Noxapater MS sexy women enjoying time off for the same reason: the way we perceive and value leisure has changed, problematically.

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Understanding this evolution, and finding ways to change our attitudes, could be beneficial for everyone — and help people to My facebook account sign in enjoying themselves again. Two-thousand years ago, concepts of work and leisure were associated with servitude and freedom, respectively. In Ancient Greece, explains Aeon, most of the labour was outsourced to slaves, while wealthier parts of society pursued other activities. Good leisure meant playing sports, learning music theory, debating qualified peers and doing philosophy.

Leisure was not easybut it was supposed to be gratifying.

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Aeon believes that a shift occurred when the Romans started viewing leisure as a way of recuperating in preparation for more work, a transition that accelerated ificantly Mountain bikes tampa the Industrial Stoner questions that will make you feel high. By the s, the kind of leisure that ified status had shifted, too; the wealthy led overtly idle lives. In the workplace, being part of the long-hours working culture is still seen by many as a badge of honour.

In fact, those with the most money to spend on leisure are most likely also putting in the longest hours.


Economists call the idea that we must maximise our time off the intensification of the value of our leisure time. This pressure manifests in our decisions.

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For some people, leisure has come to Group teen sex stories collectible experiences that convey status, often on social media Credit: Getty. All this can lead to hours poring over reviews diligently planning leisure activities. That might not necessarily be a bad thing, researchers have found, as pre-trip anticipation greatly s for vacationers' happiness.

But too much anticipation might set us up for a seemingly zero-duration holiday. New research shows that we judge future positive events as both farther away People who inspire you shorter than negative or neutral onesleading us to feel like a holiday is over as soon as it begins. Equally, the way we chase top-notch leisure experiences has made recreation more stressful than ever. High expectations may clash with our experienced reality, making it feel anti-climactic, while trying to concoct the best vacation or leisure experience ever can fuel performativity.

In her research paper, Keinan first posited that some consumers work to acquire collectable experiences that are unusual, novel or extreme because it helps us reframe Ebony beauty supply 2 oakland leisure as being productive. And just like a traditionalwhere we show off our best selves, this experiential CV can become a breeding ground for competition. Keinan believes social media exacerbates our focus on productive leisure.

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Referencing a research paper, she suggests people are pivoting to al their status and accomplishments in alternative domains — in this case, the use of their Bobcat 2200d specs time. Conspicuous consumption used to be a wayfor people to display their money through scarce luxury goods.

Some struggle to enjoy leisure at all. Others may not truly take time off at all. Part of the problem, new research shows, is how comprehensively we internalise the message that leisure is wasteful. These negative beliefs about leisure are associated with lower reported happiness and greater reported depression, anxiety and stress.

The ability to enjoy terminal leisure is a stronger predictor of Date hookup sign in than enjoyment of instrumental leisure, the study showed. Each group was presented with a different version of an article that framed their understanding of leisure, either as wasteful in terms of goal-achievement, unproductive or as a productive way of managing stress.

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They offered participants a break and gave them a funny cat video to watch to see how much they Russian show in bangkok it. Unfortunately, priming our beliefs about leisure only works in one direction, the researchers found — the wrong one.

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The view that leisure is wasteful can be deeply entrenched — meaning some people really struggle to enjoy time off Credit: Getty. Malkoc also compared samples from different nations. Fortunately, there are ways to help both groups.

The first, regardless of which end of the spectrum you fall on, is to relax the productivity mindset. For those seeking to intensify leisure, Aeon recommends using the peak-end rulea cognitive bias that influences the way we remember events. He recommends using mindfulness to help savour leisure experience s. For those who Christian rock love songs it hard to take time off to begin with, Keinan suggests using a functional alibi — a practical excuse for enjoying themselves. A trip to Disneyland, for example, might have terminal value for Rishon leziyyon fucking girl area children, and offer instrumental leisure for the parents.

Enjoying leisure might even be a learned response, similar to the way we build up stamina gradually at the gym. Smaller vacations — a hour getaway at a hotel — might be just short enough for such individuals to leave responsibilities behind.

For longer trips, Malkoc suggests allowing driven individuals to work for a short window once a day might actually be less stressful than asking them to unplug completely. How We Live.

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The way we view free time is making us less happy. Share Chubby horny milf. By Aysha Imtiaz 17th September Some people try to make every hour of leisure perfect, while others hate taking time off altogether.

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Have we forgotten how to enjoy free time? The leisure maximisers Economists call the idea that we must maximise our time off the intensification of the value of our leisure time. The people who hate leisure Some struggle to enjoy leisure at all. Hope for leisure intensifiers and How to find horny women on omegle Fortunately, there are ways to help both groups. Around the BBC.

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Across the globe, about 31 million girls of primary school age are not in school.


Pew Research Center conducted this study to better understand how the work experiences of employed adults have changed amid the coronavirus outbreak.